I remember you guys covering HVZ a couple whiles ago here at -college- we are doing it up again. WoooohoO! The “Problem” is that a girl that my squad runs with is everything I want in a relationship. How do I ask her to hang out during these Zombie attacks?
I’m really in love with this girl but she has me by the balls. I think I want to marry her but just not yet. I’m not ready for that. She never lets me hang out with any of my friends. I can’t talk to any girls anymore. She always checks my stuff: facebook, phone, email. I love her and I want to marry her but I want my own space back. We’ve been together for about two years now and I’m 22.
I want to break up with her but she won’t let me. She says that I’m not thinking right and that I’ll change my mind again later. What do I do?
Now here is a very cute way to ask a girl to marry you. Especially if you both love LEGO bricks.
“This set was taken the day of our LEGO Engagement (July 18, 2009). We were technically celebrating our dating anniversary, and since we regularly buy LEGO sets for each other, she didn’t suspect a thing.”
Joe gave his now fiance 3 LEGO sets. Each one providing a small clue as to what Joe will be asking her after she opened all three gifts. Each set was customized to look like the couple and hint at the proposal.
The first LEGO set was called “Kristin and Joe” which had two look-a-like minifigs riding bikes. The second was “our favorite things” which included small pieces that looked like a flat screen TV, keyboard, pizza, and books. The third and final LEGO set was called “Engagement Picnic” which was made to look like the couple at that exact moment.
A very cute and creative way to ask a girl to marry her. Congrats Kristin and Joe!
I’m in a strange reverse friend zone situation. I mean, I’m friend zoned according to her but apparently I put myself there. …Wat?
In reality, she merely assumed something I’d said early on meant I was entirely opposed to being anything more than friends. Thus, she’s approached our situation in a purely platonic way from the start. We “met” on the Internet and met for real about a month later, and it was one of our early digital correspondences that stuck me in the friend zone. I, of course, wasn’t aware of this, so while trying to judge how into me she was when we hung out, I was registering about a zero on the interestedness meter. Turns out it’s because she had me in the friend zone… that I had unknowingly put myself in.
I’d like to get out of the zone but I’m not entirely sure what to do. My motives aren’t exactly the purest — I’m not flat-out opposed to a relationship but I’m not exactly looking for one either. I don’t feel like I have a lot of offer relationship-wise (I’m a boring nerd who spends too much time on the computer) but I have a strong desire for female companionship and the emotion that goes with it (ie I love foreplay and cuddling and all that). Beyond the companionship I don’t necessarily desire whatever it is that makes something an official relationship. I think at this point all I want is a friend-with-benefits type of thing — a so-called “casual relationship.” It’s something I’ve been offered briefly twice before in the past, but I feel like that’s kind of an asshole thing for me to want. I mean, it’s fine and dandy when it’s the girl’s idea but asking for that as a guy seems like douche move.
Especially in this situation because it’s like… I friend zoned myself (apparently) and then I’d be trying to get out… only not to go after a relationship like she’d probably expect. She’s a pretty cool girl but I’m not *that* into her, you know? I still want to hang out with her because we have common interests but I’d rather our hang-out time end with her spending the night rather than me dropping her off at her place. In other words, I wouldn’t mind being her boy toy, but I guess that’s too pipe dream-esque to actually happen. Too much simultaneous caking having and eating, I reckon.
Do you think it’s worth the trouble? Should I even bother trying to correct her mistaken assumption that friend zoned me from the start? Would being honest about how I want to have some fun with her but not necessarily anything more than that be useful or would it just make me out to be an asshole? Do you think there’s a chance she’d be cool with a casual relationship? Is it common for girls to want or be okay with that sort of thing? Or do I simply I let her go on thinking I was never interested from the start and find someone else?